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Writer's pictureLauren Daugherty

From Cooing to Conversations: The Language Journey of Little Ones

Hey friends! Today, we’re diving into the wild and wonderful world of language development in kids. As a mom of three lively munchkins and one teenager, I’ve been through every stage, from babbling to bombarding me with existential questions (thanks, philosophy documentaries). Pull up a chair, grab a cup of coffee (or a stiff drink, you do you), and let’s chat about those delightful language milestones and how we can nudge our little ones along without losing our sanity.


chart of different ages and speech milestones
Early Stages of Speech Development

Infants and Toddlers (0-3 years): The Foundation of Communication

Children begin to understand and use language in remarkable ways during this developmental phase. Babies start by cooing, babbling, and eventually forming their first words. Key milestones include:

  • Recognizing familiar voices

  • Responding to simple commands

  • Using 2-3 word phrases

  • Expanding vocabulary rapidly


Supporting Language Development:

  • Talk constantly to your child, describing daily activities

  • Read interactive books that engage multiple senses

  • Use books like Usborne’s “That’s Not My...” series, which provide tactile experiences that stimulate language learning

  • Introduce “Baby’s Very First Black and White Library” to support visual and cognitive development.

Recommended Activities:

  • Repetitive reading of short, engaging books

  • Naming objects during play

  • Singing nursery rhymes

  • Encouraging vocal responses


So, picture this: Your tiny human starts cooing—those adorable, nonsensical sounds that fill your heart with joy. This cooing phase, known as pre-linguistic, begins around 2 to 3 months. My youngest, MacKenzie, loved yelling at ceiling fans—like they were conspiring against her. It’s all part of the game, folks. Just give them all the goo-goos and ga-gas you can muster, even if it feels like you’re auditioning for some avant-garde opera.


Fast-forward a few months, and you’ll notice what’s called “canonical babbling.” Around 6 to 10 months, it’s “ba-ba” and “da-da” galore! I call this the “mini-beatboxer” phase. My second, Elijah, worked on “da-da” like his life depended on it, compelled by his dad’s bragging rights. (Drop, mic!) Once they hit one, expect real words—okay, mainly decoding random sounds into “real words.” They point and grunt. It’s charming until it’s six o’clock in the morning, and they need water for the fifth time. Tips? Name everything. Like a Sesame Street character, become a walking talking dictionary. Pointing? That’s a car! Coffee? Oh honey, that’s Mama’s lifeline.


Around 18 months to 2 years, language explodes with vocabulary growth and simple two-word combos like “want cookie.” Those are the golden days! The twins are in this phase currently. MacKenzie’s favorite phrases are “a shoe or a deer!” both girls point enthusiastically at our deer heads mounted on the wall coming down the stairs. To support this overwhelming phase, read to them—a lot. Like, ‘join the library, camp in the children’s section, build a fort of books’ kind of a lot. But seriously, storytime is magical. Just check out what they’re into, even if it’s some rabbit character whose only talent is losing stuff (lookin’ at you, Peter).


Preschoolers (3-5 years): Expanding Language Horizons

Preschoolers experience explosive language growth. They begin constructing complex sentences, telling simple stories, and understanding more nuanced communication.


Developmental Characteristics:

  • Forming complete sentences

  • Using pronouns correctly

  • Asking endless questions

  • Understanding basic storytelling concepts


Literacy Support Strategies:

  • Engage with interactive books like “Nibbles: The Book Monster” by Emma Yarlett

  • Encourage storytelling and imaginative play

  • Use sticker books like “All Better!” to make reading interactive

  • Practice letter recognition

  • Create storytelling games


From ages three to five, your child is likely telling full-blown stories with enough plot twists to rival a telenovela. Raise your hand if you’ve ever listened to a story about a big, giant ant that creates sandstorms. *Raises hand* To bolster this creativity, encourage storytelling. Make up tales together; you’ll be amazed at the directions they take.


As for literacy activities—get creative. Rhyming games, singing silly songs, and acting out stories are just as educational as they are entertaining. My son Elijah adores playing “What’s That Word?” which often ends in laughter, which fits when she concocts a new “word” entirely. In these adventures, remember to be patient and celebrate the tiniest victories. Like when your toddler finally stops mixing up “banana” and “Bandana”—trust me, it can save a lot of embarrassment at family gatherings.


Early School Age (5-7 years): Reading Independence

I remember when my oldest was seven, all curled up with a book in our reading nook. His world was transforming, not just through the words on the page, but through truly understanding stories. This is the enchanting stage of reading independence, where children like Christian transition from decoding letters to embracing narratives.


The Magic of Emerging Reading Skills

At this age, children are no longer passive listeners. They’re becoming reading explorers, navigating through stories with growing confidence. Research demonstrates that children who read independently for 20 minutes daily encounter 1.8 million words per year, significantly boosting vocabulary acquisition. My eldest’s journey mirrors other children’s experiences:


  • Words begin to dance off the page, making sense

  • Characters become friends, not just ink on paper

  • The ability to read independently sparks newfound excitement.


His world transformed with each page he turned. The “Billy and the Mini Monsters” book wasn’t just another story—it was a personal conquest. Where once he needed my help to decode every word, now he navigated the narrative independently, his confidence growing with each successfully read sentence. Books became more than flat images and strange symbols. A dinosaur encyclopedia was no longer just a collection of pictures but a portal to understanding complex narratives.


He learned to predict plot twists, connect character motivations, and see beyond the immediate text. Each page was a puzzle, each paragraph a new landscape of imagination waiting to be explored. The magic wasn’t in perfect pronunciation or flawless reading. It was in the spark of understanding—that moment when a story stopped being a series of words and became a living, breathing world. He was no longer just reading; he was discovering, interpreting, and falling in love with the power of narrative.


Nurturing the Reading Spark

Parents and educators become reading coaches, not just instructors. Strategic approaches can transform reading from a task to an adventure:


Interactive Exploration

  • Introduce series that captivate the imagination

  • Use books with interactive elements like flaps and stickers

  • Create reading challenges that feel like exciting quests.


Making Reading a Collaborative Journey

  • Take turns reading aloud

  • Discuss story elements together

  • Turn reading into a shared experience of discovery.


Literacy Enhancement Techniques

  1. Book Selection: Choose books that match your child’s interests and slightly challenge their reading abilities.

  2. Discussion: Ask open-ended questions about stories

  3. Reward Progress: Create fun reading challenges

  4. Diverse Materials: Mix fiction, non-fiction, and interactive texts


Each page turned is more than just words consumed. It’s a neural pathway being created, imagination being nurtured, and a lifelong love of learning being kindled. For children like my son and many others, reading becomes a superpower – a key to understanding the world, exploring new perspectives and unleashing boundless creativity. Through carefully curated experiences, supportive environments, and engaging materials, we help children transform from letter recognizers to story adventurers, setting the stage for a lifetime of learning and exploration.


Middle Grade (7-9 years): Advanced Reading Skills

Children develop more sophisticated reading abilities and form personal reading preferences at this stage. Reading at this stage is more than skill development. It’s a profound journey of self-discovery, critical thinking, and expanding worldviews. Each book becomes a bridge connecting personal experience with broader human understanding.


Language Development Focus:

  1. Complex sentence structures

    1. Sophisticated sentence structures reveal deeper cognitive processing

    2. Vocabulary becomes a personal toolkit for expression

    3. Critical thinking transforms reading from passive absorption to active engagement

  2. Advanced vocabulary

    1. Encourage thematic discussions

    2. Analyze character motivations

    3. Connect narrative elements to real-world experiences

    4. Introduce varied reading materials

  3. Critical thinking about texts

  4. Genre Exploration

    1. Discovering preferred narrative styles

    2. Exploring diverse genres

    3. Developing critical reading skills


Supporting Advanced Literacy:

  • Explore diary-style books like “Ella Diaries.”

  • Introduce varied reading materials

  • Discuss book themes and characters

  • Encourage independent reading time

  • Expose children to diverse narratives


Ultimately, parenting is like trying to nail Jell-O to the wall. But with love, a heap of patience, and maybe a good glass of Pinot, you’ll see these language milestones spark into the great conversations you’ll have forever. While they grow, remember that those random car rides where they chatter about unicorns and dinosaurs will someday become cherished memories. Cherish each mispronounced word and laugh-worthy miscommunication because before you know it, they will be teaching you slang you can’t keep up with!


Understanding developmental stages and implementing targeted literacy support empowers children to build strong communication skills. These strategies cultivate a profound love for reading, establishing a robust lifelong learning and intellectual growth foundation. Parenting is an art of gentle guidance, especially when nurturing a child’s love for reading. Imagine your home as a literary sanctuary, where books aren’t homework but magical portals to endless worlds.


Consistency is your secret weapon. Those everyday conversations, those moments of shared stories, aren’t just interactions—they’re neural pathways of connection. Each word spoken, each book shared, is a thread weaving a tapestry of communication. Some days, your child might crave the wild adventure of a dinosaur encyclopedia. Next, they’ll dive into a whimsical tale about monsters who love cookies. Variety isn’t just entertaining—it’s educational exploration. The reading nook isn’t a classroom. It’s a judgment-free zone of pure imagination. Celebrate the journey, not the performance. A mispronounced word isn’t a mistake; it’s a step towards mastery. Laughter, curiosity, and wonder are the true measurements of reading success.


Every child is a unique universe. What captivates one might bore another. Pay attention. Is your dinosaur-obsessed daughter more engaged with scientific illustrations or fantastical stories about prehistoric adventures? Does your son light up when reading graphic novels or traditional narratives?


So, let’s raise a sippy cup in solidarity. Here’s to embracing the chaos, the developmental milestones, and those cherished moments that make it all worthwhile. After all, one day, we’ll miss those jibber-jabber phases—well, sort of. Cheers to all the rockstar parents out there, helping tiny humans speak their truth one babble at a time! Let’s keep exchanging notes on this crazy journey together. 🍷❤️


Happy Reading! I hope you all have a wonderful Thanksgiving!!

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